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Write to Joely

From the Postbag:

Meet Joely

An old friend of the house, Joely has seen enough to know better and lived enough to know that people rarely do. Warm, sharp, discreet, and not easily shocked, she is the resident agony aunt behind Dear Joely — an advice column for dilemmas, entanglements, inconvenient longings, and the stories people tell themselves in the name of love.

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Tell Joely the truth. She can take it.

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Have a dilemma, an entanglement, a suspicion, a secret, a longing, or a mess of your own making? Write to Joely. Letters may be published anonymously and edited for length and clarity. Names will be changed, dignity preserved, and judgement left at the door.

A note from Joely

Letters may be edited for length and clarity and published anonymously. Names and identifying details will be changed. Joely offers personal advice, not professional legal, medical, or mental health guidance.