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From the Postbag:

Meet Joely — Advice Columnist & Agony Aunt

An old friend of the house, Joely has seen enough to know better and lived enough to know that people rarely do. Warm, sharp, discreet, and not easily shocked, she is the resident agony aunt behind Dear Joely — an advice column for dilemmas, entanglements, inconvenient longings, and the stories people tell themselves in the name of love.

Dear Joely answers anonymous letters about relationships, friendship, marriage, sex, family, shame and modern social disasters — with candid advice, dry humour and considerably less judgement than some situations deserve. Read the latest letters and replies below, or send Joely a dilemma of your own.

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Have a dilemma, an entanglement, a suspicion, a secret, a longing, or a mess of your own making? Write to Joely. Dignity will be preserved, judgement left at the door, and no situation dismissed merely because it began with bad wine and worse instincts.

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Letters may be edited for length and clarity. Names and identifying details will be changed. Joely offers personal advice, not professional legal, medical, or mental health guidance.